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Practicing being grateful is something that I often forget to do, especially in times of stress.
But being grateful has amazing benefits for helping us feel better in the face of trouble! Actually, according to a book by Robert Emmons, there’s a ton of research suggesting gratitude is the key to conquering hard times.
How, you ask? How, indeed. It seems ridiculous to suggest that when life is terrible, we should pretend everything is good. It goes against everything we’ve been taught our whole lives. Yes, it seems difficult to admit that there are good things when you want to focus on the bad. And, in some situations, it can feel inappropriate to focus on the positive. This, I think, is why people are so put off by the idea of practicing gratitude. But that’s not what being grateful is all about!
Being grateful even in times of stress is a way of reminding yourself about the good things in life when it seems like everything’s bad.
However, it’s not about pretending that the bad things don’t exist. It’s not even about just remembering that there’s good in addition to the pain. It’s about realizing that in the face of tragedy, you have the power to re-frame it, to still feel grateful. That power you feel is solid proof of your power over your tragedy. You will not let it get the best of you.
If you’d like to buy the book by Richard Emmons about gratitude, you can find it here.
My background in psychology has proven to me that practicing gratitude is really important, but it’s something that has generally slipped through the cracks in everyday life. Life has been really hard lately, and while lots of negativity is surrounding me, I have to remember that I’m also surrounded by good and happiness. Remembering that fact in the face of adversity gives me power over the situation I’m stuck in.
Melissa Gonzales of Mint Tea and Elephants has written a lovely blog post about the things that make her happy, and I thought it would be a great exercise to do the same for myself.
I need some power in my life lately, and I know you might, too. Uninspired, as some of you know, is all about becoming a better adult, while still being able to celebrate passion and fun. Sometimes, like on Sunday, it was about pure fun (did you see the road trip playlist?) and some days, it has to be more geared toward actually helping you with adulthood. Today is one of the latter. How can I push the message that you guys should be your best selves if I’m not living that way myself?
So, here it is. As many things as I could possibly think of to be grateful for, or happy about. If you’re reading this, I’m actively tagging you to do take this challenge, and doing it for yourself. I only ask that you tag me in your posts, so I can read all the wonderful things that you’re being grateful for.
1. I’m Being Grateful for My Sister
My sister, Lauren, is the most gorgeous creature to ever grace this earth, and I’m so grateful for her. She’s a junior in high school, but she got asked to the senior prom. This picture below is of her stupid face and her stupid dress and their stupid pre-prom at a house that overlooked New York City and also had a DAMN infinity pool. The party was for at least 50 kids and their families, and it was CATERED. With PASSED HORS D’OEUVRES. It was beautiful. Every girl at that party was somehow stunningly beautiful, but Lauren stood out like a *rose among thorns,” as she wished I would say. She was classy, elegant, and drama-free. And, you know, just as naturally inclined to pin a boutonniere as I was at my prom.
2. I’m Being Grateful for Sappy Rom-Coms
50 First Dates
- I’m disappointed with you if you don’t know this. But, just in case I’ve got some rock-dwellers reading today, the movie is about a guy falling in love with a girl with short-term memory loss. Henry Roth (Adam Sandler) is a total ladies man who makes it a point to disappear after he’s been with someone. One fateful day, he falls in love with Lucy (Drew Barrymore) who has short-term memory loss, and suddenly, instead of aiming to be forgotten, he has to fight to be remembered every single day. It’s super touching, and you’ll probably ugly-cry, but there will also be tears of laughter. They throw in a perfectly tasteful amount of dirty humor. If you’ve never seen it, or if you love it as much as I do but don’t own it, you can get it on Amazon! Rent it for $3.99 or buy a digital copy of it for $12.99.
Silver Linings Playbook
- This is dark but, this movie played a role in getting me over the worst breakup of my life, so I’m very grateful for it. I would fall asleep watching it so I wouldn’t feel so lonely. Then, I’d wake up in the middle of the night and cry to the DVD menu music because I was too afraid of what I’d feel like if I turned it off completely. It’s so indulgent and yet so poignant. It’s deep and yet has many moments of easy comic relief, which make you feel less gutted by the end. The plot surrounds Pat (Bradley Cooper), dealing with his new diagnosis of Bipolar Disorder and his wife leaving him. In the process, he meets Tiffany (Jennifer Lawrence) who helps him get more comfortable with his new normal. Also, it has the most lit soundtrack. If you’re interested in the movie, you can find it on Amazon. Same deal as 50 First Dates!
Letters to Juliet
- This one is super cheesy, but it’s one of my favorites because it’s such an easy watch. It’s about a writer named Sophie (Amanda Seyfried) who goes on vacation to Verona with her insufferable fiance. When she comes across Juliet Capulet’s balcony, she finds heartbroken women who write letters to Juliet, and Juliet’s four “secretaries” who write back to all of them. When Sophie finds a letter dated 1957 and writes back, and her answer brings the now-elderly woman back to Verona, in search of her true love. Sophie, the old woman, and her grandson travel throughout Italy together in search of long lost love. It’s the most predictable, neat and tidy movie in existence, but I love it. If you think you might too, here’s where you can get it.
3. I’m Being Grateful for My first Affiliate Sales!
Yes! This month, I made my first few affiliate sales, and I’m extremely thankful for them. They’ve validated that I’m building trust with you guys, because you trust me to recommend good products to you. I’m so grateful for that. I’m still getting the hang of this affiliate marketing thing, but I know for sure that the key is being genuine. And that’s the whole point of Uninspired! Being your genuine selves even in the face of boring, soul-sucking adulthood. You know. So, I’m thanksful that’s resonating with you, and I’m thankful that we’re becoming friends!
In case you missed it, here’s what I’ve been promoting that got me my first bit of Uninspired ~cash flow~
Elise McDowell’s E-book on Affiliate Marketing:
Elise has come up with the easiest, cheapest, and fastest way to get into affiliate marketing that I’ve come across. When I found her e-book, I was contemplating buying Michelle Schroeder-Gardner’s $200 course on affiliate marketing. But this book is just $25, and it’s made me three affiliate sales this week! Since my commission from each one was $10, I’ve already more than earned my money back. In less than seven days, at that! If you’re looking to get into affiliate marketing and NOT spend a ton of money on learning how, this is a great start! You can even use it to build up some savings. Then, maybe after a few months, you can have the cash you need to take a famous course like Making Sense of Affiliate Marketing. If you’re interested, you can check it out here.
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That’s it for today!
That’s the list of things I’m grateful for this week! I hope to do more posts like this in the future, not only for me, but for you, too! I get to practice gratitude and remind myself that I have control over the negativity in my life, and it seems like you might get some good recommendations for products and services 🙂
Hope you have a beautiful and positive week!
~Sending good vibes~